“Serenity is not freedom  
from the storm, but  
peace amid the storm..” 
S.A. Jefferson-Wright

There are times in our life when we find ourselves being haphazardly tossed about by a powerful, sometimes potentially destructive storm, over which we have no control. While we may be powerless over the disturbance itself, we do have the ability to control how we respond.  

Kathy and I spent this past weekend at the Jesuit Retreat Center in Los Altos, CA. It was an opportunity for us to practice self-compassion with others who are experiencing turbulence in their own lives. It was time well-spent. 

The main presenter for the weekend was Father Tom Weston, a Jesuit priest, who has extensive knowledge of and experience with alcoholism and recovery. The stories, insights, and wisdom he shared were inspirational, hopeful, and healing. This particular retreat was for family and friends of alcoholics.

While the quote above, by Stephen A. Jefferson-Wright, was never mentioned during the retreat, the author’s words accurately describe what participants were seeking this weekend. Most of the meetings during the retreat began with the Serenity Prayer:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

We have a framed copy of this prayer in our home. It has been a constant reminder to me for several years that there are, and will always be, situations in my life over which I have absolutely no control. While these experiences may cause pain and suffering, they are also opportunities for tremendous growth and healing.

Over the course of the weekend, a number of others attending the retreat shared their personal stories of coping with the addiction of loved ones. There was a strong sense of solidarity among the participants as we came to recognize our shared struggle.

I’m grateful for the experience of this retreat — for the wisdom shared by Father Tom, for the vulnerability and insights shared by other participants, and for the entire staff of the Jesuit Retreat Center who welcomed us to the sacred space and provided such a comfortable, nourishing environment.